Interracial Romance Stories
| Name: | Demetria |
| Affiliation: | Black Female |
| Country: | USA |
| E-Mail: | dw72@juno.com |
I am a 25 year old black female and I have been in a relationship with a 30 year old white male for about 4 years. I was raised in mostly white suburban areas, starting in California, where I was born, and living in Kansas, Texas, Georgia, Connecticut, North Carolina/South Carolina. My mate was born in Virginia, but lived most of his life in West Virginia. He did not really get to know any Blacks until he went to art school in Pittsburgh after graduating from high school.
I have many problems with self identity and feeling like a misfit because of the usual things, like people saying that you are trying to be white or acting white because you like rock music or use proper english, etc.
I believe that people are products of the environment that they are brought up in. And their lives are shaped by the willingness to have an open mind, be adventurous, and following their hearts.
My problem that I am wrestling with is my fear of rejection or my fear of being humiliated by bigots. I have fou nd myself in the past lying about key pieces of information to my co-workers that would “give away” the race of my partner, and for two years now on two different jobs I have talked myself out of bringing my partner to any work related functions because I actually have nightmares that I will be fired from my job or treated so cold and heartlessly, that I will not have the emotional ability to return to work day after day.
I also go over and over in my head, what will people think. I wonder if My bosses wife would be afraid that since I am attracted to white men, would I try to seduce her husband?
All of the things that I worry about are driving me to the point of insanity. I live in a rural area outside of Charlotte, NC and feel very isolated here. I can’t move because my mate and I just bought real estate here.
I am paralyzed by fear of the bigots and don’t know what to do! Someone please email me with suggestions. I would especially like to hear from individuals whos job/way of making a living was threatened, when their boss or clients found out about their interracial relationship/marriage.
My email address is dw72@juno.com
Wiating to here from you!
PEACE!
I can relate and agree with you because of the simple fact that i am going throught the same thing. I am not currently in a realtionship but find that I am only attracted to white men. People do often believe that I am trying to be white because of that fact and the fact that i have mostly whit friends and love rock music. But what people don’t see is that I love being black. It is just that I have grown up around white people and they know mme better. I am friends with people I can relate to and I like men who treat me nicely.
My suggestion to you is to forget what other people say and do what makes you happy. If you live your life the way others tell you to you will be miserable
I’m White and have been brought up in a mostly Black neighborhood. I listen to rap music and use slangs like ‘yo’ and etc. So my family members who grew up in White areas refer to me as a “wigger” (this truthfully hurts) and trying to be Black. My boyfriend is also Black. But I grew up here and my friends are all Black.
I am not in the same situation, but I am attracted to white males, and although I am only 18 and in my freshman year of college, I’ve learned that things are not as they appear. Have you ever wondered that maybe its not you that accepts your relationship. I dont mean to sound rude. But heres acomparison, its like a fat person saying “Oh, I wont get this job, because I’m fat.” If the two of you love each other and support each other thats all that matters, people will talk whether you want them to or not. You cant change some ones opinion, but you can dispprove their ignorances. I wish you good luck and peace
those are just very interesting stories. as for me, I dont know who will love me coz every lady outside there is looking for any man to take her out for buffet! am just very new in the state and everyone here drives, so its hard for me to get hooked up to any lady of any color.
can I get any help?
cheers!
If you live your life to please people then you will live with a lot of regrets and a lot of loneliness. I finally got the message from my head to my heart. If people are going to like you for who you are or they are not. If they don’t so be it and bye bye toxins in my life. Less dead weight and regret I have to deal with. If that man makes you happy and loves you unconditionally then baby shout it to the world. I have decided to stop limiting God to a certain color on my soulmate. Whatever color he is if he is colored with the best love for me and supports me and my child hey I am so ready!!! Only things we won’t sit back and cry over when we leave this world are those that truely brought joy and lasting relationships to our lives and those we brought the same to. Start living honey and loving!!!!! No more people pleasing!!! Those so called racist folks won’t be there for you when you need them. They can’t define you. Check out our new President and come out the closet with your love by your side!!!